Why am I not happy for him?

[Bedroomeyes]

An ex of mine that I have become really good friends with.. Called me today to tell me that he is thinking of proposing to his girlfriend.. Now I do not have any hidden feelings for him.. We broke up years ago and have a really good friendship.. And I have met his girl and she seems really cool... But when he told me I really got upset about it... And now I trying to figure out why? :confused:

[Brightness]

I can identify with these feelings.

I was with a guy for close to 4 yrs. and when I heard he was getting married, I cried. . .I hadn't seen him in years and we resolved our break up and had kept in contact until he moved out of state.

For me, it was the sense that he didn't even ask me. . .seriously, I mean with a ring and everything. . .he asked me but didn't accompany it with jewelry so you know I was like: 'quit playing, nigga'. I have felt human love for him but was "out of passionate love" with him for years by the time this happened.

I know it can fuck you up trying to wonder why you feel that way. . .I'd have much preferred to be upset with him or not give a damn but I guess that goes against my personality. . . I make the friend gesture to all my ex's, whether they take me up on it or not is on them. . .

[seductive_tee]

It could be because you know he's a good person and that he may make her happy.....maybe it's that hidden jealousy.

I was like that when my first love told me he was about to be a father.

[Bedroomeyes]

There may be some truth to both of these answers.. I think it has to do that this man has always been a straight Playa - hell, he still is.. I have so much shit on him right now.. :upto: :D

In fact, this is why our relationship ended.. I wanted more.. And he couldn't/wouldn't give it.. I guess it is more of a jealousy thing that someone was able to get what I couldn't... :rolleyes:

And he is the last person that I would have expected to get married before me!! Hell, He always told me that he would neva marry!!!

[OhSoPrecious]

Originally posted by Bedroomeyes+
He always told me that he would neva marry!!!

Yeah, that's what some of them say. . and they're the first ones to get married~!! :rolleyes: I don't get it. . .

(At the rate I'm going. . . at least when I said it, I meant it~!! :eek: ) (sigh)

[SeaDuceme2]

Sounds like ole boy is STILL a playa, just so happens he decided to deceive someone else in the process....just be glad it's not you:D

Think about what you know about him and she doesn't :upto:

[que90nek]

its all about timing....

even playas get tired and want to have a family.....

[SeaDuceme2]

yeah playa's may wanna have a family..the question is for how long?

Bears hibernate and sleep for the winter

[misha]

Yeah, sure they want a family....but they wanna keep playin too.

So the unfortunate wife can sit at home alone, with kids, and think about that dream he sold her.

[D2daO2da]

Howdy,
You are not happy for him because you love him. Even as a friend deep down inside you have been attached to him in the past. Yeah you broke up but that connection is always there as long as you keep in contact with eachother. Sounds lame doesn't it. I had an ex, we broke up because she moved and I didn't want a long distance relationship. We remained friends. I told her I had a date, she went crazy. Three years later, she still is crazy. Said things like "I always thought that you and I was going to get married, you are my soulmate". We never discussed anything like that.. but deep down insiede of her that's what she thought...

What are you thinking deep down inside of you?:D