Helping a friend [Archive]

14KBlaqWmn

12-03-2001, 07:35 AM

I need some suggestions on how to help a friend. For about the past 3 or so weeks, he seems rather distant. He doesn't call as much as he used to and it's been a red hot minute since I've seen him.

We talked briefly last night and I could hear in his voice that something was wrong. I've noticed this in several other calls in the past. When I asked he said he really didn't know? He's a pretty straightforward person so I know he wasn't holding anything in, and I really didn't want to press the issue.

I want to help him figure out what's wrong, but I'm not quite sure how to go about it. Any suggestions?

seductive_tee

12-03-2001, 08:00 AM

Keep in contact with him and just let him talk...it'll come out.

14KBlaqWmn

12-03-2001, 08:14 AM

There's no doubt in my mind that he'll talk to me about whatever it is, but the thing is that he has no clue what's wrong or even how to figure it out. I feel like a broken record with the "pray on it", but honestly, that's the only resolution I can offer.

Juicey1

12-03-2001, 10:53 AM

Tell him to pray on it and you pray FOR him.

shtalker

12-03-2001, 11:05 AM

I would just keep in contact with him and be there for him when he decides to let you know..

HulaSista

12-03-2001, 01:08 PM

my cousin once told me that men (at different stages of their lives) go through "changes" and don't know why. it takes them a while to sort through it but when they realize the "why" then they go through a change of dealing with it. after they are satisfied, they can move on with their lives and it is usually for the better then if they had not stopped to check themselves.

maybe this is that change with your friend.

14KBlaqWmn

12-03-2001, 06:46 PM

Hula, You may be on to something. I've heard of something like that before, but I always thought it happened to men later in life like 45 or 50 yrs. old.

When I think about some of the comments he's made about things in the past, he could very well be going through "the change". Does that mean he'll start getting hot flashes and night sweats? LOL.

misha

12-04-2001, 11:05 PM

I had a friend that went through that, he didn't know why, and was convinced that he was depressed. Mind you, he was going through some intense change in his life, none of it bad, but major differences.

He used to ask me to come and pray with him. I thank God that he got through it.

14k, I will say the same prayer for your friend.

14KBlaqWmn

12-05-2001, 05:09 AM

I really appreciate it misha. Thanks guys, for the advice.