Do you say something?

[seductive_tee]

A friend calls you, someone you talk often but not on a regular. They go on to tell you about someone they met and had sex with.

This person is someone you have slept with but they don't know that you have. Do you tell them, mention something to the person you've been with or just leave it be.

The 3 of you are about to come together soon.

[mack_black]

aww shit tee....danger on the horizon :eek:

but really....aint nothing you cant handle......

this person aint that cool with you, so they are simply an associate.

I would guess that you aint sleepin with the other person so its all good...but if you are, then things are complicated...and I'm not sure I would want all of us together at the same time...

but if that aint the case, I would say nothing to either party and see how things unfold when all of y'all get together.....hell, maybe all of y'all might be amenable to a threesome :D :evil:

[Sparkles]

Well Tee you did say a "friend" so if she indeed a friend just let her know, so there want be any surprises later. If you ole gurl are not that tight, then don't mention it. How do you know that the 3 of you will meeting together soon though?!?!?!

[seductive_tee]

Going on a trip with some friends. I knew he was going.

[shtalker]

I would not say anything unless we were tight friends. I would say a thing. Do you think you will feel awkward around them? If so just enjoy the others around you and don't focus on them.

[mack_black]

see this is different.....

all of y'all going on a trip together... :eek:

do you still have the hots for homeboy?
is girlfriend still letting him tap that ass?

if the answer to these questions are yes....

DANGER ON THE HORIZON..... :eek: :eek:

[Sparkles]

What if once he see you, he tell the friend, itsn't she going to wonder why she heard it from you instead of him, because I would?!!?!?!?

[que90nek]

if u didnt tell her before that ya'll kicked it...why tell her now?

if u do u will come off as bitter and a HATER!

you are the history...she is the now.

[mack_black]

I see your point sparkles.....

but I was raised not to kiss and tell....and I ASSume everyone else does the same....but giving myself a reality check....what if he does tell her and she doesnt?...... but according to Tee, her and girlfriend aint that cool...

but knowing the cat-i-ness of women, the chick will probably hate tee if she finds out from him and not her.....

[shtalker]

Trust me that brother is not going to say a word in fear of not getting some from the new girl.

[mack_black]

well...if thats the case.....then nothing should be said at all by anyone....but I'll bet before the trip is over, somebody is gonna spill the beans.....

[Sparkles]

I am just saying but this resently happen to some friends. Her thang was why didn't she give me option to walk aways before the new friend let him it!!!!
Shtalker-- he already hit per Tee, but

Originally posted by mack_black+
I see your point sparkles.....

but I was raised not to kiss and tell....and I ASSume everyone else does the same....but giving myself a reality check....what if he does tell her and she doesnt?...... but according to Tee, her and girlfriend aint that cool...



but knowing the cat-i-ness of women, the chick will probably hate tee if she finds out from him and not her.....

Mack if it was me, I could care less, but like you said some women can be a trip but Tee should have to uncomfortable on the trip as Misha so eloquently puts it 2 tears in a bucket, Motherfuck IT!!!

[que90nek]

what diff does it make that she had him first!!!

i hate that....

i danced with him so now nobody at the table can dance with him!

i dated him one time...so now...nobody can date him...even though i wasnt feelin him from the start....

and this girl is not that good of a friend!

[shtalker]

Well how about Tee call him and talk him about the situation. If they should tell or not.
I don't know enough to say to many scenarios could happen.

[seductive_tee]

Ok,

NO i don't have the HOTS for him.
YES the two of them are sexing, according to her, i ain't asked him.

I haven't talked to him in about 2 weeks and that is when he told me he had paid for his trip and that'll he'll see my new tattoo then. I'm like..yeah ok whatever.

Since then i've spoken with her a few times but the last convo is when she started talking about him and how she can't wait for the trip and what not.

Yes i always knew she was going.

Are they going as a couple that i don't know.

I just don't need know funny looks while i'm trying to have fun....

[mack_black]

Que...I hate that shit too...
that is the cat-i-ness of women.....already putting claws into a brotha that she dont even OWN !!!!

anyways...what shtalker said is cool too..maybe Tee should talk to the brotha and work from there...however Tee never answered the question about if she still has the hots for him....that makes quite a difference......

[Juicey1]

If she is just an associate, I probably wouldn't tell. But my very dear friends, I would be like "girlfriend, I already done had that". My true girls would be mad at me if I didn't let them know that he & I had a history together. But then again, if she is my true girl, she would already know about him.;)

[que90nek]

did you say "talked" or talked to him in two weeks....

when was the last time ya'll knocked boots?

[seductive_tee]

Mack i said i don't have the hots for him, he was just someone from my past. As for this cat-i-ness...i don't go there. I feel a man gonna fuck who he want and when he want.

Juicey, She is more of an associate, but like i say we talk often but not alot, i'd say 3-4 times a week on the phone....she is always fussing cause i never call her.

Que, i said we talked. Last time i've been with him was in the beginning of the year.

I think it's just best i say something to him and let him take it from there.....i know he'll come up with something.

[Bedroomeyes]

sounds like yall still have something going on if he wants to see your tattoo.... If you are really over him and will not be uncomfortable with seeing them together.. Then I will just talk to him and tell him to not say anything.. But that also means yall can't be having these private convos on the side... Well.. at least not about seeing anyone's new tattoo....

[seductive_tee]

Him wanting to see my new tattoo is nothing......i sent an email to quite a few folks about me getting it.

I'm gonna call him tonight and just let him know.

[mack_black]

call him for what?

if y'all aint sexing why you calling? oh he's just a friend right?...
one of them booty call friends?

you're making it seem like you are still involved at some sort of level...

[seductive_tee]

I don't need know shit on the trip......

I'm not fucking her, he is, i did. But like u said, some women have that cat-i-ness and she might be one.

[shtalker]

Tee,
Screw them you go and enjoy yourself. Hell she is the one that will get hurt. fuck her and him. If you want to sleep with him go right ahead. You are a grown woman and damn the rest. Look out for you and your feelings.

[que90nek]

gosh...

u talk to her ,......ON THE PHONE....3-4 times a week...and she is just an associate!!! WOW!!!!

but on the real....

if i was him......and you called me.... and said

"I know u fuckin so and so....and u know we USED to fuck"

i would be like "HUH!!! STAY OUT MY DAMN BUSINESS!"

[djackso]

If you are still talking to the guy then you still have a relationship with him. Does the other girl know he still talks to you? Are you going to meet other men on the trip? What if he ignores you? Do you really want that drama between the three of you? Choose who you want to remain friends with & treat the other one distant. All three of you will not get along.

[mack_black]

I hear what que is saying...

I hear what shtalker is saying....

and I definately hear what Djackso is saying...which is probably closer to reality...

but what if on the trip homeboy wants to get into tee's drawls...
for some reason I think it might be a 'go'.......

[seductive_tee]

Originally posted by que90nek+
"I know u fuckin so and so....and u know we USED to fuck"


Que i would not say that. If i said anything it would be

Hey whats up, i ain't know u was kicking it with her...just wanted u to know she told but i ain't mad...wish ya'll luck....ya still my buddy though! Don't matter to me if you tell her just thought u should no.

Women that come off like that still liking dude and i aint.

I'll let ya'll know how it go later.

HOMEBOY is not getting in TEE's DRAWLS, so ya wrong Mack.

[djackso]

Why say anything then? Let them handle their own business. Hey Tee, Why don't you show me your new tattoo instead( Just joking)?

[seductive_tee]

Que got a picture, ask him!

[HulaSista]

tee...the original question was...basically...WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

Me...because i am just like this to any female no matter how close i am to them...when she was tellin me bout ole boy...i would have said:

"NO SHIT? :p Well ain't that a bottle of jack daniels and a game of dominoes! I USE TO FUCK HIM TOO! Oh- mah -goodness! ...WHO DA THUNK? :confused: Girl...NO WONDER he's going on the trip! I hope ya'lls have a GREAT time kickin it together! Me personally...I will be out scopin some NEW DICK :idea ...do you want me to catch you any while I'm out?...."

and me and her would be TIGHT after that! ;) comparin stories and shit! and THAT negro will be the one scared...cause...if he KNEW that both of us were friends in the FIRST PLACE...he should have told HER...what was up when they started sexin...

Don't START no shit by NOT saying something. The MINUTE she told you, in the very next MINUTE, you should have told her..straight up. By waiting any length of time to tell her or him anything would make you "suspect" to "wanting her fuck back"...

but thats just me! :upretty

[sistuhchey]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by HulaSista+
[B]when she was tellin me bout ole boy...i would have said:

"NO SHIT? :p Well ain't that a bottle of jack daniels and a game of dominoes! I USE TO FUCK HIM TOO! Oh- mah -goodness! ...WHO DA THUNK? :confused: Girl...NO WONDER he's going on the trip! I hope ya'lls have a GREAT time kickin it together! Me personally...I will be out scopin some NEW DICK :idea ...do you want me to catch you any while I'm out?...."

Don't START no shit....wont be no SHIT!!! :hammer :hammer

Enjoy your trip.....don't fall for the cat-i-ness as mack put it....more than likely she already knows...that's why she's calling 3-4 times a week.....:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

[Brightness]

I would have interjected something like:

"Yeah, I know dude, we used to kick it and still chat from time to time. . ."

That right there would have prevented any bombs from being dropped later on this trip.

But like everyone else said just go and enjoy yourself and not get caught up in the drama. Because honestly you didn't owe her any explanation, that's the man's part to make it known that you two were acquainted.

[Vronni]

I would have told her that me and her s/o used to kick but that it was over long ago. I say go and have fun now. I doubt he's going to say anything,she doesn't know so why would anyone look at you crazy?