Your Ultimate Dream Wedding

[Brightness]

This is traditionally the time of year that you start seeing and hearing about wedding expos and shows. So, I thought it might be fun to start a dream wedding thread. I like to watch the shows and look at the magazines to see what the trends are and what's available. And everytime someone is getting married, I am all up in their mix asking questions about this or that.

Feel free to post from your actual wedding or your ultimate dream wedding: color & wedding schemes, bride & groom attire, reception menus, wedding ring sets, etc.

Be forewarned. . .I have the potential to make this a 10 pg thread all by myself.

[rainy]

well i can honestly say i had my dream wedding, shame it wasnt the dream marriage to go with it. dont have time to get into the particulars but i will be back later this afternoon. even now that we are divorced i still get compliments on the wedding itself. the only think i wasnt over the top about was the church we had the ceremony in. LOOOOONNNNNGGG story about that but i will be back with details later.

[Tastey]

I think we did this before...but who cares. Let's do it again. :D

Be back in frew...gotta get my thoughts together.

[Pamalicious]

I have two scenarios actually. My first go round was an elopement and I actually never gave any wedding a thought. The last time I even gave an actual wedding some thought was when I was with THE Ex - and this is what I wanted to do, and I still want to do this:

Scenario One: Beach - Me in some pale color spaghetti strap flowy dress, him in linen with the pants legs rolled up. We're both shoeless. My daughter has flowers in her hair and I have a very nice braided updo with flowers thruout. (I'll grow my hair out so it can catch, ROTFL) FIRST a Sunrise ceremony with just me, my intended and our children - where before God we pledge our love as a family. Then later on we pledge our love (legally) with family and friends on the beach.

Scenario Two: Midnite wedding. Summertime Tent candles lit, soft soft jazz playing. Colors that the candle light can catch and bounce off of. Me in some flattering soft non-white gown, him in a non-structured tux, my friend at work singing as I walk down the aisle.

Damn I can see it!

[Juicey1]

I had a nice wedding, I think.

I had it at the church I grew up in. My caterer decorated simply, but beautifully. She had the arch at the alter decorated with tull and flowers. The pews were decorated with tull and flowers also.

A lady my aunt knew did my bouquets. They were beautiful. A guy my aunt work with took my photos.

My bridesmaids wore champagne colored dresses. I had 4 bridesmaids and a maid of honor and matron of honor. 1 flower girl. 1 ringbearer. There were 4 groomsmen and 1 best man. I had 2 junior groomsmen. The groomsmen were dressed in black tuxes.

The reception was at the senior citizens center.

My husband used to be a DJ and two of his friends DJ'd at the reception free of charge as our wedding gift. They did an excellent job.

The only four things I wasn't pleased with was: 1. The wedding started a half hour late; 2. The young guy that sang at the wedding sang an inappropriate song; 3. The cake was broken and didn't taste great, and the bakery didn't want to reinburse us for it. They said they didn't break the cake; 4. I was on my period for my wedding day.

Honeyboo and I had a wonderful time, and a nice honeymoon spent in Florida and the Nassau Bahamas.

[Juicey1]

I have two scenarios actually. My first go round was an elopement and I actually never gave any wedding a thought. The last time I even gave an actual wedding some thought was when I was with THE Ex - and this is what I wanted to do, and I still want to do this:

Scenario One: Beach - Me in some pale color spaghetti strap flowy dress, him in linen with the pants legs rolled up. We're both shoeless. My daughter has flowers in her hair and I have a very nice braided updo with flowers thruout. (I'll grow my hair out so it can catch, ROTFL) FIRST a Sunrise ceremony with just me, my intended and our children - where before God we pledge our love as a family. Then later on we pledge our love (legally) with family and friends on the beach.

Scenario Two: Midnite wedding. Summertime Tent candles lit, soft soft jazz playing. Colors that the candle light can catch and bounce off of. Me in some flattering soft non-white gown, him in a non-structured tux, my friend at work singing as I walk down the aisle.

Damn I can see it!

I can see it too girl........you look BEAUTIFUL :upretty

[Tastey]

I want to get married in my church even though the price tag for my church is far too high...I'll just have to save up for it. (damn pennypinching trustees)

Anyhoo, my wedding will begin with our church Praise Dancers dancing to Holy Spirit by CeCe Winans. The girls will be dressed in pink leotards with pink accents.

As they dance my 2 oldest nephews will light the candles.

For the seatings of the mothers (and grandmothers if he has one...mine is dead) my cousin's husband will sing Falling in Love with Jesus, and they will be escorted by my next oldest nephew.

My mother will wear a fushia floor length skirt with a double breasted jacket made exclusively by my cousin who will also make the bridesmaids dresses.

For the processional with the bridesmaids my choir will sing Peace. The bridesmaids will wear pink dresses of all one material but each will pick the dress she feels flatters her figure the best. My bridesmaids will be my neices, and my 2 business partners Kelli and Ebony. My best friend/cousin Bessai will be my maid of honor.

My neices and nephews will be ring bearer/flower girls. The girls will be dressed in white trimmed in pink.

Then the screen will drop and the guests will see me, climbing into a horse drawn carriage to be brought to the church from our former sanctuary next door. They will watch as my father, my son, and I ride in the carriage the one block to the church...then the screen will be pulled back up.

For my entrance I want the traditional...Here comes the bride. I will be escorted down the aisle by my father, and my son.

The officiating ministers will be my cousin Gretchen, and my pastor.

I will sing to my groom (or if I find a man who can sing we will sing to each other)

My "Auntie" will read a poem written by my business partner Ebony. (I may have her read this as they are watching me ride over)

I haven't decided a location for my reception but I want a full dinner, with hor'doerves catered by my Uncle. Dancing with a DJ. My cake will be traditional tiers stacked on top of each other.

Before the wedding:
The rehearsal dinner will be held at the community center next door to my church (our former sanctuary) and will also be catered by my uncle.

My bridesmaids will receive gifts of pink ice earrings and matching necklaces to wear in the wedding.

The morning of the wedding the bridesmaids, mothers, and all other female members of the wedding party will have a pampering/brunch also at the community center.

I will hire someone to come in and give everyone a manicure, a pedicure, and style their hair for the wedding. We'll have a brunch and girl time.

We all will dress there then limos will take the maids and mothers to the church...and the carriage will take me.

[Pamalicious]

You know I thought about this thread last nite while I was 'journaling' and I made out my guest list, lol It's multi-purpose though cause it can be used as my 40th b'day party list next year, lol

[nubianx2]

Already had the dream wedding. Sorry my parents wasted their hard earned money on that one.

If and when I do it again, it'll be somewhere on an island, just me, him and the minister.

[seductive_tee]

my dream wedding is a duplicate of my prom dress, surrounded by roses, and a pair swimming dolphins. I would them to jump over us as i kiss my husband.

[That Damn jl]

I am a wedding pooper...I just can't get with a large wedding. I think largely because I come from such a small family (both of my parents were only children and their parents didn't have that many siblings either). I don't have a first cousin or an aunt or uncle. I am really selective about my friends and only have a few. I just don't see a point in my case. Now my husband on the other hand comes from a HUGE family. The wedding would have been my parents, god-mother and his family. I took the money instead and furnished my house (my parents gave the option of a huge wedding or go to Vegas and they would give a lump sum of money to start life out with and I chose the money).

[Brightness]

I would like something strapless and colored. . .preferably a vibrant color, otherwise, I may settle for a muted shade.


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[Tastey]

How about these colors Brite?

http://65.109.167.159/ladieslounge/index.php?showtopic=179

[Brightness]

I'm more drawn towards red & fuchsia & hot pink shades.

But another thing I would do in terms of the dream wedding is that I would have more than one dress because it would be a weekend celebration. Pre-wedding cocktail party, early-midday wedding then reception that lasted all night, and finally the post-wedding party and dinner.

[HulaSista]

i forgot what i wrote in that other thread, so, i'll just post what i got in my head now:

i won't dare to do a guest list pam. i'm sure my side is well over 300 and up persons. if i have it locally i'm gurantee to get a gang of people. i don't just know folks but i know folks and their folks... i keep a good repore with old coworkers with money, too, so their asses need to be invited! lol...

all i know is that it's gonna be big and a reception hall or restaurant ain't gonna cut it. i'll end up renting a park and its parking lot for the day and having a barbque host. i'll give some money to the "hushnic atlanta fresh off the plane hit the licka stow crew" led by Sparkles and it will be all good. plus the church ceremony: by the time i marry, it'll be enough room to hold everyone...

i've thought about the choir singing, but i would be PSSSSSSSSSSST if they behinds dont' show up like the do our other choir invites. so no go on that. music will all be pre recorded. i'll have to ask my cousin to be the 'button pusher' on the cd player! lol i'll make mention of him in the programs i'll design and print at staples myself !!!!!!!!

to keep the cost low, i would have it here in vallejo where parking is ample and free.

side note: rock how much you chargin to take pictures? i'll charge you labor and purchase the negatives. i'll do the developing myself... let me know a price :upto:

i won't be paying over $500 for a dress and $200 for a tux. i may not have any youth in it for flower girl and ring bearer. i will be renting luxury/suv's for the week to transport my spouse and i and the wedding party instead of limos.

i would like, but haven't decided on my hair but would like braids, styled into THE wedding coif on the morning off. let mess, less stress.

definitely an afternoon wedding so i can sleep in and eat breakfast and lunch and not be in a rush.

i would like to have elder women in my family around me all the time to keep me level headed and give me life advice during my last moments as a single woman.

out of town guests invited to rehearsal dinner friday night so that i can bond with them.

party sunday after church!!!!!!!! whew hooooooooo!

honey moon will start that wed and go for a week i guess. where? i don't know. tahiti? india? oregon? not sure yet. a cruise would be the smart choice.

more to come...

[HulaSista]

brite, i'm feeling the multiple dress option...

i can't decide on a color! i'm leaning towards mardi gras colors... (green, gold, purple) for no other reason than the obvious! but i am loving deep red tones (brick red) or blue tone (royal).

oh, and i will have a sari inspired ensemble somewhere in the day!~

[Brightness]

A lady I worked with was from Trinidad and she explained how when they got married it was a week long celebration.

They wear many different outfits and colors and there was a whole ritual of going from house to house and people in the streets who didn't necessarily know you, joining in on the festivities and creating a parade type atmosphere leading up to the actual wedding ceremony.

That kinda inspired that multiple outfit thing. . .that and the awards ceremonies where the female hosts change about 7-8 times during the night.

[Pamalicious]

I think this thread is haunting me because in all honesty - I keep the notion that I'd actually get married again buried sooo deep inside - I rarely let that feeling out.

We were at the mall this weekend and a friend was looking at a bridal book and she thrusts the book literally in my face and said "Pam what kinda dress would you like to wear" and I became overcome with nervousness and I had to admit "I had no idea because I haven't looked in a wedding book in over 15 years" (give or take a few).

I've so conditioned myself to NEVER EVER EVER think Wedding or speak of wedding aloud in front of any given male negro or whatever you had is OVA - that I have supressed the very notion that someone would want to get serious enough to marry me., since I'm the Woman you want to marry but noone is ready for that yet :rolleyes:


Yea I got asked late last year as you all know and I turned him down because that was NOT a good situation (especially after I came home one day and he had been by and left me an envelope with Our Relationship in it - circa 1978 - when I was TWELVE).

I say all of that to say - I just never utter the word aloud or in reference to any man that I know currently. On some level - I've already told myself that won't be happening to me and my old ass - so don't exert any energy to it.

Standing in that bookstore with that 400 page book thrust in my face - brought all of that to my face in living color.

[Tastey]

Pam, Is it that you don't WANT marriage again, or you just don't feel it will happen?

For me, I don't mention to any man I'm dating...but I can think about it, and talk about it here.

[Pamalicious]

Pam, Is it that you don't WANT marriage again, or you just don't feel it will happen?

For me, I don't mention to any man I'm dating...but I can think about it, and talk about it here.


I don't feel it will happen again so I don't put any energy to thinking about it. I don't know how to think about it.

It's also because my family is not a big 'wedding' family - we got marriage but no 'weddings' - so I don't 'see' it in my memory bank you know. IF by osmosis I were to get married and have a wedding - it would blow everyone away that I'd want one,lol.

So whereas other ladies are familar with the process, can remember the first time they got married (if that's the case) and the whole Will You Marry Me? etc. etc. and that process - I just don't - so the concept of wedding and that motion sometimes is lost on me.

Yes I was married but uh we were sitting in bed and he said "Let's do this" we went together to pick out the rings and in hindsight - when we divided up the bills - I ended up paying THAT bill, lol We went to City Hall - no reception no nothing. I came home and cooked dinner.

Don't get me wrong - if I were afforded the opportunity for that to happen to me - I think I would be able to let go and revel in that, because I would have let go of the notion that it won't happen to me - which would be evidenced by the fact that I would be getting engaged, lol

Maybe I'll just wait and take it all out at my daughters wedding - she better get ready, lol Because I can change that attitude about it thru her you know :)

[Succubus]

Amen on the co workers with CASH Hulasister! I had my dream wedding. In a 200 year old cathedral built buy poor black masons. It is exquisite and my reception was a Black Beard's Castle. nothing went the way it was supposed to, but damn if I didn't look GOOOOD! LOL :D

[MARLAND_SKILLZ]

Mine dream wedding, I would have to let her take care of all that as long as it is in Vegas, so after all of the goo goo ga ga, I can do somthing I really want to do.. Boy do I love Vegas.

[Pamalicious]

2003 to present - DAMN HOW TIMES CHANGE! I'm sitting here with my mouth hanging open. Whew! I'm so glad I decided to officially take a journey to emancipate myself. I tell you!

[Tastey]

My bridesmaids will be my neices, and my 2 business partners Kelli and Ebony. My best friend/cousin Bessai will be my maid of honor.


Guess I gotta find somebody else to fill this spot. LOL :p

[missbuttabutt]

Tastey, I look good in any color.

:)

[ERinger]

Me, the groom, his best friend, my best friend, & their significant others in Turks & Caicos.
Rent a private villa, and chill out for a week. Honeymoon and wedding all in one.
At home a family/friend reception.

[ERinger]

Not to be off subject, isn't a sucubus that thing that Chef married on South Park?