Family Secrets! WTF?

[Admin]

Fam, Thanksgiving is a great Holiday and it brings folks out that you seldom see during the year..so it's a great time for a reunion of sorts...but wait till I tell you this shyt!!!!!


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Okay, today I am driving back from Sacramento (from picking up my daughter) and decide to swing by my cousins crib to see her, her brother and their mom...who is my auntie.

We are related by my uncle (my mother and him are brother and sister) who is the kids father. They are now divorced, but I was over their house like 20 times a year when we were growing up. I even look like my male cousins soooo much that folks thought I was their brother.:D

Now.....My uncle and aunt had 4 kids, two girls and two boys. In their house all you would see would be pix of the 4 kids and them. In family albums, all you would see was pix of 4 kids and them.

Now, I'm 36 years old and I have been closer than close with my Uncle, Aunt and all my cousins.

Now, today me and my cousin are chilling on the couch watching football: Dallas vs. Denver when the doorbell rings.

Now, in walks this woman (Miss X) that looks like the spitting image of my aunt!!!, but I have never seen her before today. She says her name and then my cousin gets off the couch and runs over and starts hugging her? WTF?

They are acting like they are related...so I chill, thinking that she might be a distant cousin or one of my aunts sisters daughters.

COME TO FIND OUT
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That this woman is my aunts daughter!!!!! WTF? Seems that my aunt had a baby by another man other than my uncle and this is who this woman is!!! (So Miss X is my cousin)

Now, I'm half mad and happy to meet her. Then in walks Miss x's daughter who is like 32 years old and behind her walks in her daughter (Miss X's Grand daughter) who is like 10.

I'm sitting there like "BOOBOO THE FOOL" all fucked up inside because my family has hidden this woman and the truth from me for 36 years and if I hadn't have stopped by my cousins crib, I would still never know about her.

Okay, so I intro duce myself and then my daughter and I leave for home. On the way back to the crib, I am on the freeway...still all fucked up about this FAMILY SECRET...so i call my mother on my celly and say to her..

Mom, who is "Miss X", my mother seems a bit shocked, but tells me the story that I just told you. Seems this woman was raised by my Auntie's mother because my uncle did not want her to live in the same house as all of my cousins...so that is why I never met her??

I don't know.....I think that FAMILY SECRETS need to stop!!! I'm still pissed that I just found out!

Holla

PS: Anyone else got a FAMILY SECRET they wanna share? or just found out about not too long ago?:blah: :eek:

[seductive_tee]

Nope none hear, my family can't keep shit secret....all they do is bring out pictures from the 70's and 80's and wait for someone to announce they pregnant......

[HulaSista]

we have sooooooo many family secrets...i wouldn't know where to begin.

the fun part about our family secrets is that everyone except the person who the secret is about, knows all the business! lol

man...where do i begin...

my great grandfather was a rolling stone....kept the girls outta school and made the boys work...let his wife (who by the age of 25 had some 11 kids, going on 13 in 3 more years) raise all the kids...which were darker than her, cause, she didn't look black, and the white men wanted to fuck the beautiful daughters and she had to sleep with her gun to run them away from the farm house to keep from rapin her girls.

and yes...this was a secret...cause we were told they were all educated and their daddy was a GREAT man!

this is only the beginning and my mother' mother side of the family. there is SO much...

[FAMU]

My mothers has two older brothers who are dead and nobody seems to know who there father is. The only person that would know is my grandmother, but she is dead also.

[Admin]

Okay, but when did yall find these secrets out?

Age 10, 20, 30, etc?

I mean, should you be told about this sort of family history/secrets ASAP? or is it really none of your business?

I guess I'm trying to see if I have the RIGHT to be pissed about just finding out this bullshyt in my fam...and who is to blame for not telling me?

Mom
Auntie
Cousins


Holla:confused:

[HulaSista]

i found out secrets all my life. i would ask questions. my grandmother would tell me. then she swear me to secrecy. lol

it depends on just that ... askin questions of someone you trust, or who you know trusts you and WILL tell you. that is when you find out.

and sometimes you are not obligated to find out if its SO personal that it has to do with one's personal health (see my hush confession)...

right this moment, i am the biggest family secret to myself cause don't NOBODY knows my business...

[sistuhchey]

is when "FAMILY SECRETS" are revealed?????

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Secret #1...found out one XMAS many, many years ago...my mom had my sistuh's babies daddy arrested for staturtory Rape..back in the 50's...my sister 15..this Negro 20...

Secret #2...hell , one Thanksgiving...found out my Sister in Detroit was a "Lesbian"...a very succesful one...at that after all she's the only one with the last name MD....ain't that a bitch???

Secret #3....Shit my brother just told us he had another child in Alaska...where he lived for over 10 years....Hell, I got damn near 40 nieces and nephews now...hell!!! what's one mo????

I'm sure I can go on and on...So Admin, don't take it too hard it'll be ok...BOO!!!

who know's what you'll find out at XMAS????

[Admin]

...and who is to blame for not telling me?

Mom
Auntie
Cousins

Holla

[HulaSista]

no one is to blame cause it was no one's responsibility to tell you except the folks who are DIRECTLY affected by your specific stories (your cousins and they parents) and then on top of that, its none of your business until they make it your business when they feel comfortable.

on the other hand.......

now, if your family prided itself on being open and never keepin secrets, then,......mmmmmm.......ask your mom bout it..............

[14KBlaqWmn]

I really hate family secrets, but in my family they do exist.

The first one that popped in my mind was about my grandfather. While he was married to my grandmother, he had an affair and fathered two other children. My grandmother, my mom and her brothers and sisters did not know about these other children. My mom said she remembered a couple of times when she was young seeing her father driving in a car with another lady and some children in the back, but she just thought he was being nice by taking someone home....yeah he took someone home alright.

Anyway, the cat came outta the bag when my grandfather died and we were getting the funeral arrangements together. As my mother's typing out the list of relatives for his children, one of my great-aunts kindly states to add the other two illegitimate children. My mom and my aunt were shocked....hurt....furious. You could see it in their faces. After the funeral, the other two children walked up to my mother and my aunt to introduce themselves and so forth. My mom was pretty cool....just short and to the point, but my aunt didn't want to have anything to do with them. Pretty much that was it as far as for contact.....until 4 years ago.

I went to my church for a function and this man was singing and playing a guitar. I kept looking at him and I noticed that he looked just like my grandfather. After the service, I asked his name and low and behold, he was one of my grandfather's other children. I talked to him for a bit and I noticed that the more I talked to him the more comfortable he became. A few months later, he did another engagement at another church and my mom happened to be there. Afterwards she talked to him and they seemed like they were on a better note than the first time they'd met.

They don't stay in constant touch like brothers and sisters should, but at least they broke the ice and have not let the situation my grandfather created stand in the way. Whenever there are family get-togethers, my mother let's him know about them and so forth.

[Tastey]

I think that family secrets should only be told to people who will be directly affected by knowing or not knowing.

I understand your feeling Admin but this situation really didn't concern you that much. I think maybe you should have been told a long time ago..but Hey...now you know. I would not blame anyone in this situation.

As far as secrets go: I met my oldest sister when I was 20. We have the same father. I had always known she existed just never knew where she was. Other family members were shocked that we accepted her and don't refer to her as step. But it really wasn't their business.

I also have a brother out there somewhere. All I know is his name is Sheldon, Shelton...don't know how he spells it and he should be about 40-45.

There are family members that don't know about him but the fact is...why should they? It not really thier concern or business.

[Vronni]

Admin,I don't think that it was officially anyone's responsibility to tell you but it's good information to know. Hey,I didn't find out until I was 22 that I had another sister. I may have another brother out there also,but I'm not sure. Then there's the long-lost white relatives on my mom's side that we don't talk about but that's a whole nother story....

[14KBlaqWmn]

I understand to some degree why most of you would say it's nobody's business but those directly linked, but think about it this way....what if admin had dated that woman and had planned to marry her, not knowing that she was a cousin?

I'm not saying that these "secrets" have to be knowledge to the entire world, but I do think that families need to tell each other about other offspring regardless of whether they were created out of wedlock, from affairs or whatever else. I mean, nobody's perfect and we all make mistakes so why keep a tight lip on info. That's the part I don't understand. Is it that the ones that know think they are keeping everyone else that doesn't know from being hurt.....well they really aren't.

[Juicey1]

I have been just reading this post and trying to decide if I wanted to post my family secret. I pray that none of my family stumble upon this post because they will definitly know once they read it, but here it goes:

My uncle's first wife had her second baby by his cousin. He forgave her, raised the boy as his, and she had another son by my uncle. My uncle had 3 boys by her.

My uncle was killed in an accident while at work 23 years ago. The cousin who she had the second baby by died when I was about 10 or 11.

Now the second boy is questioning who his dad is. He asked my mom who his father was because he had heard rumors through the years. My mom told him to talk to his mother. Now his oldest brother is mad at my mom because he thinks she told him who his father was. Mom is really hurt by this, I can tell when I am talking to her. She says the mother was oversexed and just had to have it all the time. Then she goes on to tell me that she had another baby outside of those three by another man but gave him away.

I am sure there are more secrets, but thats the biggest one.

[SeaDuceme2]

All our family secrets have been exposed, for now....until some one kicks the bucket is when some new ones will surface..

Dang Admin, I can't believe that none of the cousins your age at least hipped you to the deal..

[Admin]

Originally posted by SeaDuceme2+
All our family secrets have been exposed, for now....until some one kicks the bucket is when some new ones will surface..

Dang Admin, I can't believe that none of the cousins your age at least hipped you to the deal..

I still feel hurt, lied to and I'm angry bout the fucking shyt! i mean, I'm felt so bad while I was there. i felt sorry for this grown as lady and her daughter....being hid away like some runaway slaves and shyt!!! WTF?

I felt sorry that I never knew them and probably will never see them again, I felt sorry foreveryone in the house at that point!!! That must have been the most fucked up dinner in the FREE WORLD, glad I bounced. when I did. LOL

Issue was that my Uncle was on the way...yeah the same man that would not allow a mention or pic of this person in his crib, was about to siut down after all these years and break bread and have dinner with her??? WTF??

Glad I did not have to look at old dude muttle throught that type of acting job...they should both will an Oscar!

Her acting like she was not hurt buy him and Him acting like she one of his kids...let alone my auntie looking at both of them WTF?

I guess it's true that when niggas get old, they forgot all the dirt they did back in the day:D

JANKY ASSES....I mean why you wanna invite STRESS on the Holidays?

Holla

PS: I'll be upset by this lie for a long time...but thanks fam. I'll blame them all for making me fell like an outsider and a dumb ass! At least we got the Cyber Confessional ON THE HUSH...my real life family needs one too.

[sistuhchey]

sorry boo.....we all have 'em (family secrets)..try not to take it to hard...but defintely ask your mom and your auntie...when your alone with them one day...why didn't they share this info...with you????...you may find out the real reason....

Please remember..although some of us make light about family secrets (me included)...there always a lot of "HURT" "PAIN" & "SHAME" that's truly buried in the closet...

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