What makes a sister go off ????

[CD]

Last Friday Fam I went over a buddies house to watch the KNICKS -vs- NETS game. When I arrived my buddies wife was there, she subsequently went up stairs. The next thing that happened was that she came back down stairs and sat in the room where we were watching the game. Within 15 secs she started going off on my buddy in front of me. He wanted to know why is she saying this stuff in front of me. She called him some foul names and said the he had issues, financial issues. I grab my coat and bounced. My buddy bounced with me as well. Up until this point I thought she was a nice woman, but after that episode, I don't think much of her. She has no respect for me or any man, including her husband.

I didn’t say anything to my buddy. All I thought to my self was...."That woman would be FIRED if she was my old lady."

[Bedroomeyes]

Don't mark her off just yet.. There's two sides of a story.. And you have no idea what your friend did to make her go off like that..

Believe me, we don't go off for no reason...

[SoftNwet]

'Cause there was certainly something else going on and you just came in on the intermission. I am sure that your "Buddy" gave you his side abut her triopping but believe me..........there is alot more going on than meets the eye!!!

[CD]

But unless he cracked her up side her head or popped her in the mouth under no circumstances should she have mentioned that stuff in front of me.

I know the Negro, and he an't doing nothing different now that he wasn't doing then. The Negro is something else, but at the same time she must be too since they been rolling together for a lot of years.The way I read it she was pulling a power play on him.

[misha]

Why snap in front of people? Sit back, let that anger stew for some hours, then hit him with it as soon as company is out the door!

It is true that there is much more to this story, but it was wrong for her to go off like that in front of an innocent bystander.

[djackso]

CD, Your friend is a good one. Respect me as a man & discuss our personal business in private. Let a man go off in front of a woman's girlfriends & i bet his ass would get fired on the spot.

[Admin]

Look, I do not care what the hell is going on with US, but I have never been with a woman who put OUR biz in the street like that.

The fact that she had the mind to leave the argument as soon as you came in the door, shows that sheknew the right and correct thing to do, but then coming back downstairs and sitting in the room with yall (causing tension/she was not there to watch the game) shows that she don't give a flying fuck bout her man.

Tina sang it best "What's love got to do with it?"
Q: Do they love each other?
Q: Do they respect each other?

I mean, dayuum, I really do know know too many couples that do not have financial issues right now. This year was some unexpected shyt and caused many a business to go bankrupt...let alone laying off workers with no notice.

So, she wanna throw there biz in the street like that? Hmmmm, sounds like they need to see a counselor quick.

Honey is about to SNAP!

Holla

[seductive_tee]

Morning HUSH...

Ok, now what did he do when she went off and obviously she must have done this before and got away with it.

And when i go off, it's certainly in private.....

[Admin]

Certainly averyone has the right to go off, if they are upset about something. Hell, go to any Mall this wekkend and get you a Latte and sit back and watch the kids coming out of the toy store:D

Now, kids do not have any control over their emotions...it's up to US parents to teach that. So, when I see an adult who looses control in PUBLIC, I will guide them to a counselor....cause they obviously need to be reminded/schooled on how to check them emotions.

Holla

[que90nek]

was this a girlfriend or wife?

i'll assume that it was a wife. she was very wrong for what she did. he was wrong for whatever he did to get her there...and he knew she was like that so maybe he should have called u and cancelled...or met u somewhere. but he brought u in to the lion's den knowing that the issue was unresolved....she felt like he did it on purpose to shut her up for the moment.....the more she thought about it...the more pissed she got....then she talked to one of her girlfriends...and then....it was ON!

[CD]

The thing is I thought all was well when I showed up. I usually can peep it out if a sister is in a foul mood (I'm am a brother with battle scares if you didn't know)

When he asked her "why are you saying that stuff in front of CD, He don't want to here that stuff", her response was that I'm financial minded and maybe I'll tell him something. Mind you I don't tell folks shit. I'll tell you my experiance with a thing or share my thoughts about a thing, but I rarely step over the line and tell someone what to do.

Now I don't even want to be around the woman. She hasn't done anything to me, but it's only a timing difference before she does. I ant nobody in her eyes if she goes off on my buddy like that.

[que90nek]

"my buddy" is her hubby....first and foremost.

it is unfortunate that you had to see that side of her.....but....i kinda blame "my buddy." he didnt think she would do it...and she did.

[Admin]

CD, Ummm

Q: What does financial minded mean?:D

Q: Was she then saying that you were not able to take care of your bills?

Q: Who died and made her teacher?

Q: Is she a financial/tax consultant?

Q: Why she sooo stoopid?

Next time you are over their crib, tell her to join the Hush and we'll straighten that ass out real quick like.

Holla

:beating

[CD]

Man you crazy. She is a tornado. Hip her to the Hush, soon as she gets mad at me, my shit will be all over the board.....I'll save myself the drama...

[djackso]

Finiancial matters should be discussed with a financial counselor not in front friends. She was trying to make him feel less than a man in front of his friends.

[HulaSista]

wow.......uh........i woulda got HUNG if that was me hollerin like that.

[Vronni]

The wife was dead wrong for that. It was totally inappropriate to to discuss their business in front of CD or anyone else,for that matter. Obviously there is more to the story to make her go off like that. They have probably been having issues for awhile and she was just striking back,although in the wrong way.

[dulce]

WTF????? Wifey, girlfriend, whatever the relationship, she is st8 wrong for going off like that in front of you CD. If she really couldn't hold her shit, then she shoulda called his into the other room at the very least. Basically, that was some old immature, power play mess.

I wouldn't be around her either. Been on the other end when a guy went off on one of my girlfriends in front of me. The second time it happened, it suddenly had to involve my ass...needless to say, I don't kick it with them as a couple and if I'm there and he comes home, I bounce - not attitude just whassup bro & I'm out.

[Juicey1]

I know betta than to pull that shit with my husband:beating

If she was that mad, maybe she should have stayed in her room or the kitchen and just been mad by herself. I probably would have left the house and went to vent with my best girlfriend, had a couple drinks, come home late:eek:

[que90nek]

it makes a diff it this is wife or girlfriend....if its girlfriend...she has a new name...

its called EX girlfriend....

if its wife......i CAN understand why CD would be uncomfortable around her...but i don't blame her alone....."buddy" has somethin to do with this.

[SeaDuceme2]

there are lots of things that will make us go off....but I can only speak for myself, now a few weeks ago, Sea had to go off and it just so happens that Remi was present. I normally don't even go there when folks around, but this particular incident involved the dangering of my daughters health, so SEA WENT DA FUCK OFF!!

In CD's scenario I would have not went there! thats not my thang at all...But in some situations...... "where u fuck up, is where u get corrected!!!

[CLSmooove]

WRONG WRONG WRONG.........

No way in hell do u ever ever ever disrespect a spouse in front of others like that... If the need is that great she shoulda excused herself and asked her husband to join her,......

No matter how much Bootyboo may piss me off i do NOT go off on him in front of comany... But I will take his ass upstairs to the bedroom and read his ass with a quickness....

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by SeaDuceme2+
"where u fuck up, is where u get corrected!!!


wooow i like that one!

[Brightness]

I agree.

That lack of self-control/self-restraint is tacky to me no matter who does it, male or female.


Originally posted by misha+
Why snap in front of people? Sit back, let that anger stew for some hours, then hit him with it as soon as company is out the door!

It is true that there is much more to this story, but it was wrong for her to go off like that in front of an innocent bystander.

[SoftNwet]

Originally posted by SeaDuceme2+
But in some situations...... "where u fuck up, is where u get corrected!!!

**Adding that quote to my mental rolodex****;)

[Sparkles]

time and place for everything, and in front of company is not the place! I am sure there is more to the story, but ole gril could waited until CD had left.

Sea I hear ya, lol but Remi is your brother, that's different than outside family members and friends. Someone put doodlebug in a hostile situation, you did the right thing!!!!

[sistuhchey]

Originally posted by SeaDuceme2+

.But in some situations...... "where u fuck up, is where u get corrected!!!

Being a lady...and respectful...that's all GOOD!!!....But as Sea says: "Where u fuck up, is where u get corrected!!!


CD, I'm sure if you check w/ your partna..he knew she was ready to blow!!!....

[Brightness]

How is the new school handlin' these things?