Invite to Conference......

[SoftNwet]

If you are on an IM conference chat, you do not, I repeat, do not, take it up on yourself to invite others into the conference. If you have not started the conference the you need to ask the permission of the initiator and then after the permission is grandted then invite the other party in. Why would you invite a person into a confernce where they are unknown to all in the conferecnce!??!? All they can do it sit there and feel left out. They do not know what the others are talking about and the person that invited them are ususally hold a IM session of their own as to what is being discussed in conference.

Whew, just had to get that off my chest!!!

[HulaSista]

i know what you mean. i agree...

[MsLick Him Low]

I've had this happen to me so to speak. I knew the people in the room but at the time they did not know me. I entered the room by invite of another person. I said hello to everyone and before I could then tell them who I was they began to ask around who I was. I thought it odd that they didn't ask me directly. I think that pissed me off and I never did tell them who I was.

So to respond to your get it off your chest.

I think people do feel left out when they dont' know the people in the coversation.

But I also think that sometimes the people tend to be rude when someone enters. I can only imagine how I would have been welcomed if we were actually all in the same room.

[HulaSista]

m.l.l....

if you knew the folks in the room all you had to say was:

i'm __________ and _________ invited me in

why would you sit there and look at the folks in the room like THEIR rude and odd. you came in the room un announced, so, ANNOUNCE your self! sounds silly that you would sit there AND GET MAD and let a bunch of people go off and expect them to "welcome" you in and they didn't know it was you (behind another name i assume).

that's on you, not them, for being rude.

it was a private chat. if the originator of the room didn't send you an invite to come in, then 2 things

1. its a private chat
2. they didn't know your screen name to invite you to come in

and the person who invited you never announced you? lol... then you should be mad at that person for not even defending you! lol lol lol there is such a thing as chat etiquette :rolleyes:

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now if this was a live room, for example, if you would have walked into the hush house at hushnic and sat your ass down and don't speak, you would have got stared at and asked "who did you come with" and "what's your name"? i know that much for a fact, you would have been spoken to directly (all them mofos in the house)

and if you sat there and didn't say shit, yeah, you would get talked about, in your face, cause you lookin rather stupid to come in a home, HA a private rented home, and don't speak and yet expect for folks to be "happy and joyful and welcoming" to someone who is rude enough to not say shit.

but like i said, soon as the door of the hush house was opened to you, someone, especially me, would have said "hi, what's your name"... what ever name you give, you will be introduced to the group as such. and i don't think no one would be rude to you.

but if you a hush member, and no one ever met you, you best say what your hush name is. cause then we'll have to wonder why you there.

[MsLick Him Low]

Well when you see the book chat etiquette please send me the ISBN number.

Unfortunately some chats do not allow you to post over a certain amount of characters.

I didn't know that I was not introduced. I could not read what was previously written before I joined.

I typed a greeting and then went back to say who I was and to ask everyone to introduce themselves by the names I knew. Before I could do that they all began asking who is that, who is she, how she just gonna come up in here like that. Now after reading that I chose not to post.

But upon later finding out who all the people were I just summed it up to that they were some ignorant people anyway.

I don't expect anyone to be happy for me coming, but when you enter anyone's HOME yes your are expected to be introduced or if that not possible to introduce yourself. Me I"m more of a walk in and say Hello to everyone when I walk in and after the intial hello I say who I am. But if the chat law book says otherwise I might consider changing my approach.

Hula, you have those that when you are in another room of the house and miss the introduction you have those that will approach the person and say, Hi, I'm such and such and you are? and you have those that will say to someone other than the new person, "who is that"?

But let me rephrase let me take back the word pissed and say amused. I think I found it quite amusing.

[misha]

I have experienced this before from both sides. I was invited by a woman who I have chatted with extensively with before to join a conference with her and two other women. These women were very religious, and one of them had the surgery that I was about to have the next day. I was really scared, I was worried, I felt alot of mixed emotions, and she thought it would help to be around these strong religious women. Well, I was about as welcome as a black man at a klan rally. Before I could say hello my name is.....one of the "religious" women told me that it was a private conversation and to get the HELL out. I immediately closed the window and sat at the computer and cried (I was very emotional that day) I guess the person that invited me snapped at the other 2 women because five minutes later, each of them started sending me emails with prayers, inviting me back to the conference, and all that. I refused to come back. I have refused their conversations since.

Their behavior was uncalled for.

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by MsLick Him Low+
But upon later finding out who all the people were I just summed it up to that they were some ignorant people anyway.

i think that that is rather fucked up to say. your judgement of them being ignorant from that chat is also saying that you already percieved the group as ignorant from before the chat with your use of the word "anyway". again, it doesn't make a difference what you knew happened before you came in of whether permission given/announcement was made.

your sarcasm about the book isbn was cute. but, don't go there with me. if you don't know what common protocol is when you're chatting, then, that's alright. just keep doing things the way you do and keep feeling left out.

see by choosing not to announce yourself, especially after the questions were put out there of "wondering" who you were, you placed yourself in the spot to get talked about. again, that is rude to the persons already in chat. you now look like an intruder.

and yeah, it was a private chat, available for invited only. and the assumption can be made that if you were invited in, that obviously you must have been a part of the group on a larger scale and this was your first time chatting with the group on a smaller scale. PERHAPS the group should have known that. But they didn't... and so you further....

YOU allowed yourself to get talked about and viewed as an intruder.

if the group didn't know you, you had the opportunity to say "hi this is ______from ____" UPON THE FIRST SENTENCE YOU TYPED; you can say "hello" AND your name (the group knows you by) in the same damn sentence. sayin "hello" and not sayin nothin else ain't doing shit. who the fuck are you and who invited you? make yourself known or get out the chat.

(hush fam, if you're wondering why i am so arguementive on this, DON'T TRIP.... i know what i'm doing...TRUST lol)

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by misha+
I have experienced this before from both sides. I was invited by a woman who I have chatted with extensively with before to join a conference with her and two other women. These women were very religious, and one of them had the surgery that I was about to have the next day. I was really scared, I was worried, I felt alot of mixed emotions, and she thought it would help to be around these strong religious women. Well, I was about as welcome as a black man at a klan rally. Before I could say hello my name is.....one of the "religious" women told me that it was a private conversation and to get the HELL out. I immediately closed the window and sat at the computer and cried (I was very emotional that day) I guess the person that invited me snapped at the other 2 women because five minutes later, each of them started sending me emails with prayers, inviting me back to the conference, and all that. I refused to come back. I have refused their conversations since.

Their behavior was uncalled for.


no offense misha, but that lady should have announced you before bringing you in there. for THAT i am sorry you went through that.

[misha]

I agree. she should have discussed it with them before ever inviting me. But before either of us could type anything, I was being cursed at. I expected more from "Christian" women.

[MsLick Him Low]

Actually that is the point Misha. Sometimes people do not give you a chance to introduce yourself. I'm sorry that happened to you Misha.

I was invited to this chatroom after being in a forum for a longtime. People make generalizations about people a lot. I also stated that I thought I was told that I was coming which helped to anger me. I thought I was announced and they went off like that. Then I later noticed I wasn't but I decided not to speak anyway and left. But it is a fault of mind that I am easily angered which is something I'm trying to change. However, after reading the posts talking about me I just left without saying anything. Granted I should have said something, but again people should ask questions. Afterwards I eventually left the forum and haven't been back in over a year. I still e-mail a few of them to see how they are doing.

But I guess it bothered me because these were people who were always chatting away in the forum and I had gotten to know. I didn't expect anyone to be so mean. They were literally calling me names. I think that was a bit much. My friend later told them who I was but they were saying they didn't like me anyway and etc..... She e-mailed me what was said in the chat.

[que90nek]

wow.
this picture is beginning to clear up.

[Brightness]

Very interesting. . .

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by Brightness+
Very interesting. . .

ain't it? :rolleyes:

well m.l.h.l., i bet you won't do THAT again, will you?

if us hush folks ever get into a private chat, we'll post it on the board and if you want to join, tell us your yahoo/aol name so we can invite you. we're nice people here. :beating

[Tastey]

I was in a Hush chat a while back and something like that happened. Someone came in called Tasteesomethingorother. I don't remember the exact name. But folks didn't know who they were or how they got in and I was already there.

The person got offended and left.

Was that you MsLHL? :confused:

[D2daO2da]

Now... 99% of my chat experience has been on AOL. We used to have the Ebony over 30 rooms locked up and we never had a set of rules about inviting people or announcing folks in the room. We simply said Hello. There was always someone that greeted the room. Any screenname that came in they were greeted with Powertools saying Welcome with their screenname. You got used to new people coming in everyday and we even had people that would come in the room and didn't say anything and as long as they didn't offend anyone it was all good. This went on from 92 - 99. We had many successful events from it and then it died down.

Now I was unaware of the new chat room rules so prior to Hushnic 2002 I was invited to the Yahoo Chat room and when I got in the room.. People said Hi and I said hi back. I then invited another hush member into the chat. Her name was TasteeKandee on yahoo but not on the hush. She got dissed... Attacked and because I didn't know the rules of engagement I just watched the whole thing. I would assume that if Tom Dick and Harry are in a private chat and Mary comes in the room that she would have to be a friend of Tom Dick or Harry. I was wrong. But hey.... Things have changed that's all. No big deal. I found it funny. But now that I know if I am ever in a chat I will follow the new rules.

If I bring new people to the hush do I have to Announce them to everyone. Is that necessary now too. I feel loved, I wasn't announced by my goodwill sponsor.. lol

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[Tastey]

Originally posted by D2daO2da+
Now I was unaware of the new chat room rules so prior to Hushnic 2002 I was invited to the Yahoo Chat room and when I got in the room.. People said Hi and I said hi back. I then invited another hush member into the chat. Her name was TasteeKandee on yahoo but not on the hush. She got dissed... Attacked and because I didn't know the rules of engagement I just watched the whole thing. I would assume that if Tom Dick and Harry are in a private chat and Mary comes in the room that she would have to be a friend of Tom Dick or Harry. I was wrong. But hey.... Things have changed that's all. No big deal. I found it funny. But now that I know if I am ever in a chat I will follow the new rules.

If I bring new people to the hush do I have to Announce them to everyone. Is that necessary now too. I feel loved, I wasn't announced by my goodwill sponsor.. lol
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That's who I'm talking about. I was there that night and I wanted to know who had jacked my name. lol :p

Yeah, she was run out of town quick, but it all could have EASILY been avoided if she had just answered the first question that was posed to her.

Who are you?

If I remember correctly she tried to be coy, and not answer and folks blasted her because we thought she had wandered into a private chat unannounced.

Then she said she was invited but again refused to say by who. Then she left and folks were still like...Who was that? lol :p

I don't see anything wrong with inviting someone else but simple common courtesy says either you introduce them or they introduce themselves and no confusion will arise.

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by Tastey+
I don't see anything wrong with inviting someone else but simple common courtesy says either you introduce them or they introduce themselves and no confusion will arise.

thanks you. my point exactly.

and this is strictly regarding OFF THE HUSH BOARD chatting. it has nothin to do with being on the board. everyone knows that if you come on this board, you need to come correct. every newbie gets on this board and scope it out and figures it out they have to be on your p's and q's before you jump in slamming folks you don't know.

tastey, i ain't laughin cause m.l.h.l. states that when this happened to her, she presumed the folks IGNORANT. presumably, had i been one of those persons in that chat room and i found out she called ME ignorant, it be some word exchange. but ...

wtf ever....

[MsLick Him Low]

The incident you all are talking about. Sure wouldn't want to be on the receiving end of Hula's words.

Now we have rules for joining the HUSH. I think Admin needs to add that to the registration. Now when you say p's and q's I'm not sure if I was on them. Don't remember being on them since I was about 8 or 9. But I have never called anyone out of their name on here nor do I intend to because I don't agree with it. I don't even curse in here, actually I don't curse at all.

Sometimes people take this thing to seriously. If I paid X amount of dollars to be on here I can come and express myself anyway I want to. So the number of posts or the tenure of a HUSH member allows them to speak to people any old kinda' way. I think it is up to Admin as to what type of behavior is allowed or not allowed.

This is a place for fun, entertainment, a chance to get other people views and maybe learn something new (ex. Que's thread about not forcing yourself to pee). If I wanted to be regulated on my language I would have gone to Black Planet. If I wanted to worry about being on my p's and q's I would have become a spy or something. I did not come here to bite my tongue nor did I come here to offend anyone.

Not trying to be sarcastic, but maybe you should consider writing a rule book and selling it. Sounds like a money maker to me. Or maybe Admin can add something to the registration process to avoid confusion in the futue.

[que90nek]

so what is this REALLY about?

[Tastey]

Originally posted by que90nek+
so what is this REALLY about?

Good question because it's gone from being about chat sessions to be about joining the Hush so apparently I missed something. :confused:

[mystkev]

WTF??? Yes people should announce themself, but you don't have to be rude off the bat. Now if you say to someone, "such and such who are you?" Then if that person does not answer, why can't you just ask them nicely to leave?

Calling people names, being rude, feeling you have to tell someone off over something so little is so damn stupid. People always want to talk about someone else, but let's see how your ass feels when you getting talked about, but oh yeah I forgot people bring the shit on themselves :rolleyes:

I gotta agree w/MsLickHimLow the shit is IGNORANT.

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by que90nek+
so what is this REALLY about?

it's get it off your chest forum... ain't it? i'm all good now! i don't know what mlhl's problem is....

[D2daO2da]

How bout a simple..

Welcome (Screenname) to Dick Sucking Tips 101 Private Chatroom. Hey (screenname) got any tips.

Those were the good ole days.

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