Ladies

[KissableSexyShortStuff]

those of you who have "fixed" it so that you cannot have anymore babies, how did you do it? (birth control, tubes tied? etc)

[seductive_tee]

birth control then i got my tubes tied. They wouldn't do it right after my daughter because they said i was too young, so i had to wait 2 years......and 2 years later i went snip snip, tie tie, burn burn....

[nubianx2]

I got my tubes tied seven years ago. My daugther was 11 and I didn't want any more.

[Sparkles]

birth control pills between my deliveries and 9 months after my 2nd child I had a tubal. My desire was additional kids was gone, and kid's can so be expensive so we decided that was all good.

[SoftNwet]

I got the the Tubal about 5-7 years ago. I had to wait until I ws 30 my Dr. would not do it before then. His concern was that I was not married and still young. I told him that I was satified with the twins and did not want to chance having more. He still made me wait a year but I got it done and and happy. I do not tell the men becuase they think that gives them condom free sex!!! Stupid asses.....I don't want and more kids, but I do want to be around, disease freee, to see mine grow up!!!! :fu

[SouthCaliDiva]

Had a hysterectomy in '95. Uterus riddled with tumors. I was given the option of only having the tumors removed, but thankfully the doctor let me have the hysterectomy. I never had wanted children anyway and had already been on the pill many years. Would not likely have been able to complete a normal pregnancy anyway, so I'm glad the doctor agreed that there was no reason for me suffer the monthly agony any further (especially since I would no longer be able to use BC pills and I had been suffering since I was 10).

I had tried to get a tubal some years earlier, but was told no for the same ridiculous reasons of age and marital status.

[shtalker]

I am using absolutley nothing right now! I use the Pills normally though.

[seductive_tee]

Always wondered why they made women wait....do they make men wait or give them the hassle they give us?

[Tastey]

I think the reason for the hassle is that a vasectomy is easier to reverse.

I know SEVERAL women who thought they knew what they wanted and they changed thier minds.

I'm grateful that my doctor took my age and single status into consideration. When I had my son the bleeding was so bad he could have opted to do a hysterectomy and he told me that if he wasn't able to stop the bleeding he would have to.

I told him "I trust you, just save my baby."

But he was able to save both of us and I am still able to bear children.

[Juicey1]

After the third baby, I was like tie them PLEASE! He snip snipped, tied, tied, burned, burned right after I gave birth to a 9 pound 3 oz baby boy. I couldn't have been happier.

I am patiently waiting for grandbabies :hearts:

[lovely]

i use the pill. yasmine to be exact. ('take the yasmine for no more jasmines :) )

if i aint married and having babies by 33 i think ill get the tubes tied. i dont want to be no old mama:D

[misha]

I became a hyster sister 2 years ago. Wish I'd done it ten years ago!

[Joi :)]

right now i dont want more kids, so i take the pill, but if im not happliy married by ummm, 40 then imma get it done. If i happen to marry then, there are plenty of kids out here that need a GOOD mom, i could adopt or cater to the community :D

[Brightness]

I didn't realize the number of Black women that get their tubes tied. I know of no one personally.

Basically, I have an issue in that I cannot conceptually agree with sterilization because for me it brings to mind a couple of things.

1. Try as I might. . .I can't help thinking of this being the same process that you do to a dog or cat who doesn't have the mentality or higher thought process which goes along with pro-creation.

2. That in turn. . .brings me to the thoughts of when it was rumored that this was a method of trying to "control" the black population thereby basically making it a form of public pressure or "self-inflicted" genocide. Seems like they wanted to do this to "correct" the welfare mother problem if I'm not mistaken.

Also, there was a time when doctors were needlessly doing hysterectomies and this achieves the same effect as tubes tied. . .limit/diminish the Black population.

Anyway. . .to answer the question. . .I am "fixed" from having babies by using restraint, common sense, masturbating, oral/anal pursuits and when I just can't take it anymore. . .condoms.

That's worked for me for over 13 yrs. I haven't taken a synthentic hormone (birth control pill) in 10-12 yrs. . . .I have concerns about the long-term effects they can pose.

I know ya'll are thinking she got more theories than a lil' bit but at least I'm informed and I have documented reasonings why I feel the way I feel.

I've been "offered" getting my tubes tied and a hysterectomy to "cure" my feminine issues but so far I've declined and I think I'll just keep rolling the way I've been. . .it hasn't failed me yet and if or when it does, I will just have to deal with the aftermath.

[HulaSista]

i use nothing now. no need.

will i ever use bc again? i hope i don't have to. i'd rather for my body to malfuction on its own like a couple of women in my family so that the choice to have a tubal or hyster is not mine own selfish reasons, but, for 'preventive safe health' reasons. i think being an older mother is more of a 'bad' thing now a days and it's kinda sad; i've realized i've fed into this thought process and wonder if i would be a mother at 40 again. what seems more acceptable is adopting at an older age. it's the same thing... RAISING KIDS. but the kid coming out of your body somehow seems 'worse'. *shruggs shoulders*

[SouthCaliDiva]

I didn't realize the number of Black women that get their tubes tied. I know of no one personally.

Basically, I have an issue in that I cannot conceptually agree with sterilization because for me it brings to mind a couple of things.

1. Try as I might. . .I can't help thinking of this being the same process that you do to a dog or cat who doesn't have the mentality or higher thought process which goes along with pro-creation.

2. That in turn. . .brings me to the thoughts of when it was rumored that this was a method of trying to "control" the black population thereby basically making it a form of public pressure or "self-inflicted" genocide. Seems like they wanted to do this to "correct" the welfare mother problem if I'm not mistaken.

Also, there was a time when doctors were needlessly doing hysterectomies and this achieves the same effect as tubes tied. . .limit/diminish the Black population.

Anyway. . .to answer the question. . .I am "fixed" from having babies by using restraint, common sense, masturbating, oral/anal pursuits and when I just can't take it anymore. . .condoms.

That's worked for me for over 13 yrs. I haven't taken a synthentic hormone (birth control pill) in 10-12 yrs. . . .I have concerns about the long-term effects they can pose.

I know ya'll are thinking she got more theories than a lil' bit but at least I'm informed and I have documented reasonings why I feel the way I feel.

I've been "offered" getting my tubes tied and a hysterectomy to "cure" my feminine issues but so far I've declined and I think I'll just keep rolling the way I've been. . .it hasn't failed me yet and if or when it does, I will just have to deal with the aftermath.

I've never heard of concept #1, but I have heard of #2. I guess if we can't be used for free labor, there isn't any reason to keep us around. :rolleyes:

You've been lucky over the years. Condoms only was never enough peace of mind for me. And since I knew I didn't want children, I didn't want to be faced with an unwanted pregnancy. Beside, BC pills are the only medication that gave me any relief. I could take 1,200 mg ibuprofen and still be in unbearable pain. Add to that the mental anguish of bleeding out and people around you (parents/employers) not believing you were really sick. I'm with Misha. I would have done my hysterectomy 10 years sooner than I did if I could have gotten away with it.

[SouthCaliDiva]

i use nothing now. no need.

will i ever use bc again? i hope i don't have to. i'd rather for my body to malfuction on its own like a couple of women in my family so that the choice to have a tubal or hyster is not mine own selfish reasons, but, for 'preventive safe health' reasons. i think being an older mother is more of a 'bad' thing now a days and it's kinda sad; i've realized i've fed into this thought process and wonder if i would be a mother at 40 again. what seems more acceptable is adopting at an older age. it's the same thing... RAISING KIDS. but the kid coming out of your body somehow seems 'worse'. *shruggs shoulders*

Hi HulaSista,

Could you expound. This is the first time I've heard a tubal or hyster characterized this way. I'm interested in your thoughts.

[HulaSista]

well, every time i've thought about wanting a tubal (baby prevention) and a hyster (stop periods, don't they?) i've come to the same conclusion that i wanted those things for selfish reasons because i didn't want to deal with the burdens which is naturally bestowed on women. women before my time and time before that have suffered, what's my problem that i can't deal during a time where medicine has advanced to make my troubles (supposedly) easier? my grandmother was instrumental in me understanding how much easier i have it now a days.

that's what i mean by my own selfish reasons. it's my way of thinking (perhaps too deeply?) about my motivations/intentions behind my actions and that if they are ill fit in comparison to everything else i'm SUPPOSE to stand up for, then should i really be doing it? the fun-er challenge (yeah right) is to abstein and build my behind some will power and endurance... something i've lacked in my 20's.

plus i've had 1 major and 2 minor surgeries already... UUUUUUUUUH... i'm cool... those pains were enough!

and just to be more selfish, if a hyster or tubal could prevent std's, i'm sure i would abandon all thoughts be on the waiting list as patient number 65465464 to come up in year 2007 to get the procedure done because of all the folks who may sign up if just to save their own and someone elses life.

lol

i've probably confused you more, sorry if i did.

[sistuhchey]

No snip, no cut, no burn, no hyster.....

They tell me 1 is lonely number :upto: ...hell it's been 28 yrs...she has no other brother or sister......

i would not be able to look into my daughter's eyes.....and say i'm pregnant...she would have me committed..... :beating

[CLSmooove]

Cause my tubes have been cut. tied, and burned for 11 yrs now.....

After having my kids (3 kids within 3 1/2 yrs), I had enough.....I was poppin them out faster than popcorn pops in a microwave....LOL.... I was 24..... My doctor at that time had NO problems doing this,....I think he was tired of seeing me....

I did suffer thru a bout of regrets after I got married the 2nd time.... But the regret probably lasted all of 5 mins....

I can't even imagine having a baby now.... Starting all over again.... My baby is 11..... I don't think so!!!!

[HulaSista]

I did suffer thru a bout of regrets after I got married the 2nd time.... But the regret probably lasted all of 5 mins....


lol @ 5 mins