Marriage Sex...Different?

[lovely]

A girlffriend of mine just got married recently. Her and her husband had sex before marriage, but she said that since thier wedding and the exchange of thier vows that the sex is different...much more intimate, more spiritual.

Has anyone else experienced anything like this before.

If you are not married....what do think about it.

[Brightness]

Ummm, first off. . . .as everyone knows I'm not married so I can't speak to that but I will say that that type of explanation is not uncommon for women to say, I have yet to hear a bruh talking about a more intimate connection since he said his vows. Most of the time they are complaining about the decline in frequency vs. the increase in intimacy.

[Babygirl]

When I was engaged one of my married girlfriends told me the same thing about the sex would me so much better, ect... Well our lovemaking was great to begin with and nothing has changed ( other than the frequency). I think it's more spritual/ mental than anything. I think with some women it's guilt, or they don't have to worry about babies being born out of wedlock...I could be wrong. But no bells or whistles went off once we said our vows. It's still all good.;)

[OhSoPrecious]

I've never heard that it was any different after marriage. . but, that's just like me saying that sex was different when I was pregnant~!! :eek: It really was~!!!!!

It must be part of what Babygirl said. . . I didn't have to worry about any babies. . . I was already pregnant. . :blah: it's all mental~!! :upretty

And. . . no, I was not married either. . it was just different~!! :evil:

[seductive_tee]

I'm not married and never have been, but if they say it's different, then oh well...maybe it's because they feel closer or something.

[Sparkles]

started flashing, but i did notice a change. When we first got married our sex became much more intense! I am not sure why but I enjoyed it ! In my case, I tink my husband felt he had to step in up a notch since we had gotten married. In no way I had I made him felt that way, but maybe just his way of thinking.

We have been married 11 yrs now, and the frequency hasn't slowed down any. I always heard that the sex get's better once you hit your forty, well if that is indeed true I am not sure if i can handle it because thing are really, really good right now!

i think it was bright who mention something about men going around saying something about more intimate connection after marriage. My husband say those exact samething to me on a regular basis. However know one who ever him say that other than me because those words are for me and me only. My s/o is very personable when it come to things about our marriage and take those things very seriously!!!! Once again though britness is correct when she said that you hardly ever hear men speak about the emotional connection after vows that women all seem to speak about....


I guess we will have to wait on Andre's response!!!lololol

[ThickBodyHottie]

intense sex comes in spurts...frequent spurts on my end, but, nevertheless, there are times when it's not intense...that's never stopped me from bustin' one, though...and in that, i find i-ching....OOOMMMM!

[shtalker]

This was interesting,
anymore opinions?

[ramrodque]

BEST LOVE MAKING.......IN A MARRIAGE...
When you and your mate can emotionally reach that point of intimacy when you can just let yourself go without any barriers.

WORST LOVE MAKING....IN A MARRIAGE....
When your mate is never into it and he/she just doesn't excite you. SOME WOMEN this that once their married, she doesn't have to do the things she's done in the past. Her thoughts, "I don't have do anything, he will have to wait."

THAT'S WHAT YOU THINK!!!



If you have a good man HUSH SISTERS, give that man some SEX!!! Don't hold out. Ya gotta do things sometimes that you really don't want to do.

*ok, I'm done. It's an emotional issue with me.*

[ice-c]

dawg....count to 10!

i feels you for real!

[FAMU]

Originally posted by ramrodque
If you have a good man HUSH SISTERS, give that man some SEX!!! Don't hold out. Ya gotta do things sometimes that you really don't want to do.

Preach my brother preach. Cause God knows I know what you are talking about.


To the brothers that have been married for more than two years and are still getting it on the regular this is for you>>>>:beer

[Pamalicious]

Originally posted by Rev.


Preach my brother preach. Cause God knows I know what you are talking about.


To the brothers that have been married for more than two years and are still getting it on the regular this is for you>>>>:beer

A question:

So is this why the married brothers are on here alot? I still find it hard to believe that (if you ask married men) they are getting NO sex at all.

It's 9:30 going on 10:00 on the east coast, aren't the kids in the bed? Ain't it a school nite? Are you about to go settle in and cuddle up and communicate and relax and get all lovey dovey and encourage the act of intimacy or are you gonna join us single folks who might not have a date tonite - back and forth on the boards?

[Tastey]

It always amazes me the number of married men who readily say they don't get sex on the regular after marriage.

But I guess it shows that marriage is about a lot more than sex because even though they are not getting it I only know one man who is divorcing his wife because he ain't getting it.

The rest either complain about it, cheat, or just deal.

As far as better after marriage. I think it depends on how important or intense your vows were.

I know couples who lived together for several year before they married and after the wedding they went back home...there was nothing new but the wedding bill to pay off.

I think that alot of times we cheapen the act of sex and pre-marital sex is so simlar to post-marital there's no room for a difference. If you've already done it ALL, then getting married really doesn't change that.

[Tastey]

Originally posted by Pamalicious


A question:

So is this why the married brothers are on here alot? I still find it hard to believe that (if you ask married men) they are getting NO sex at all.

It's 9:30 going on 10:00 on the east coast, aren't the kids in the bed? Ain't it a school nite? Are you about to go settle in and cuddle up and communicate and relax and get all lovey dovey and encourage the act of intimacy or are you gonna join us single folks who might not have a date tonite - back and forth on the boards?

Priceless :p LOL

[CLSmooove]

Originally posted by ramrodque

WORST LOVE MAKING....IN A MARRIAGE....
When your mate is never into it and he/she just doesn't excite you. SOME WOMEN this that once their married, she doesn't have to do the things she's done in the past. Her thoughts, "I don't have do anything, he will have to wait."

THAT'S WHAT YOU THINK!!!





Umph... :rolleyes:

a womans perspective
WORST LOVE MAKING IN A MARRIAGE....
When your mate thinks that the same ole same ole will work everytime... (Rub a leg here and there... lick a nipple for a hot second... kiss the neck once or twice, then jump on it like u riding a horse)....When u can count on one hand how many moves it takes for him to get a nut... when you know what he's gonna do before he even does it.... And when you have to go to the bathroom to get yo own nut using five finger charlie.....

AND then you wonder why she dont wanna give you some ass.....:rolleyes:

[ice-c]

i hope that everybody is learning from this....

i have heard the above from so so so so so so many married men.

[CLSmooove]

Yeah I agree Ice.... Except I have heard it from so so so so so so so so many married WOMEN.....

Let me put it to you this way Sex and Marriage.... Its a good thing, dont get me wrong, but after a while the shit gets REAL REAL REAL OLD and BOOOOOOORINGGGGG....

When its good its good but when it aint its lLike Angela Bassett said in waiting to exhale "its like watching paint dry"....

[ice-c]

tru tru...

but u must understand that for a man.....lack of variety...is boring....

[FAMU]

11 Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.
12 I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need.
13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth
me
Philippians 4:11-13

[Sparkles]

I guess 14 years late.....I should be counting my blessing...WOW... well say what cha wont,,, but I would be MAD if I wasn't getting sex on a regular basis..

so to the folks why aint getting any on a regular basis whether it be married or single folks :beer keep ya head up.

[HulaSista]

my favorite conversation from Divorce Court -

Husband - We don't have sex
Judge Mabeline - Wife, why don't you have sex?
Wife - Because the baby is in his crib in our room and the other kids are sleep in their room
Judge Mabeline - So? What this got to do with the kids?

LMAO

[Andre98]

Imma have to get out my Bible helper to get through the "therewith"s and "abound"s... but I think I get the jist.

This is one of the few I found on my "To Do " list from Pam... the search goes on for the others...

Sex after marriage, oh man... this August is our 18th anniversary. I wish i could go in depth about the unfolding years.... there were highs and lows. Of course it may feel different...nothing is going to compete with the thrills of sex as twpo people get to know each other, especially if love is involved. Bu that doesnt mean it has to be lesser as the calendar pages come off. The only thing I can say for sure is if it ever becomes routine, just give it a rest for a non period week. I am having difficulty getting into the details of who should be doing what, because we've gone so far beyond all that.

If you've ever had a loved one in a hospital, undergoing surgery or just are unable to reach them to know if they are alright when you've seen news about a crisis near them, sex is so small , so inconsequential.

This past year, year and a half actually, this is something I can talk about. With the physical changes that have taken place to affect our sexual health, I can't begin to convey to you how a level of intimacy that can be achieved in ways we rarely take time for. There are times I long for the unbridled way things were, and times I appreciate that this has made me assess where I was in my own head about sex, past and present, and the woman I love. Would I have been so loving and caring and just plain unbothered by the substantial decrease in ability if the cancer tables had been turned? God, I hope so... I can say yes because I would certainly try, but it's to easy to just say it. I don't dare pretend to imagine that I would have the unselfish compassion that my wife has had about something that cuts the male ego to the core. I will forever be humbled by her.

I understand when I see threads like this, it is easy to be concerned about the importance of sex in relationships. But there is so much more. If there isn't, there should be.