View Full Version : What's Love got to do with it??? Pt.2
sistuhchey
10-17-2001, 07:20 AM
Ok,,,,so say he ain't rich, and can't keep a steady job....but you love his dirty drawls...he makes you feel good all-over, you click, you laugh, you share, you cry together, and he pops the question???Will you marry me???? Do you??? knowing his financial status??? knowing you'll probably be the main bread winner.....Do you marry him???? Remeber now...you LOVE HIM!!!
:eek: :eek: :eek:
Just because you fell in love with her don't mean you suppose to marry her......:D
Juicey1
10-17-2001, 07:58 AM
Nope, I wouldn't marry him. I would tell him to get a decent paying job and hold onto for longer than 6 months and I will marry him after that. But if he does a 360 on me after we are married by losing/quitting his job and not making a effort to find another, I will be quickly making my way to a divorce lawyer.
seductive_tee
10-17-2001, 07:58 AM
HELL NO......
who gonna pay for the damn wedding.....not me by myself...he gotta have a job...and where he gonna live rent free...not in my DAMN house...HELL NO again.
nubianx2
10-17-2001, 08:04 AM
HELL NAW!!!!! Love don't pay no bills!
ThickBodyHottie
10-17-2001, 08:30 AM
what is he if he has no money?:confused:
The ladies have spoken.
I don't no why I keep thinking......"No romance with no finance"
Originally posted by ThickBodyHottie+
what is he if he has no money?:confused:
Now that's a good thing.....:D
HulaSista
10-17-2001, 08:45 AM
naw....he can stay broke by himself...i can love him from a distant
Tastey
10-17-2001, 09:39 AM
Good question Chey.
Honestly I have a man like that. I STILL love him will ALWAYS love him but I'll tell you like I told him.
No, I ain't marrying your ass when you get out of jail.
The reason is marriage is not just for companionship. I don't need to get married for that. It's about enhancing each other's lives and in your present situation you have nothing to offer me except a hard d*ck and a rougher life.
Call me when you get out...we can hang. You are my heart but until you get it together you will not be my husband.
Much love.
lovely
10-17-2001, 10:05 AM
If you aint got no money(excuse the ebonics)...i ain't interested.
I will never fall for someone without money again.
djackso
10-17-2001, 10:21 AM
Men marry broke ass women all the time. Maybe I need to take notes cause I need to stop looking at the ass & start looking at the cash.
seductive_tee
10-17-2001, 10:24 AM
And they a fool...
ThickBodyHottie
10-17-2001, 10:25 AM
...and women be marrying ugly ass negroids, too...patrick ewing and bill gates aren't eye-candy...
shtalker
10-17-2001, 10:41 AM
Hell No!!!!
I am not taking care of someone elses child. They need to go be with they Momma.
We need to both be contributing to the relationship financially, cause you all in love at first until your damn lights and water and shyt get turned off.
Love is good but I gots to eat and shyt!!!!:eek: :eek:
HulaSista
10-17-2001, 10:46 AM
djackso...you missed what chey said: HE CAN'T KEEP A STEADY JOB.....
that ain't cool at all...
so yes, men marry broke women all the time, BUT, we do keep a steady job...and there is a reason why we broke all the time. the reasons are inumerable...
Tastey
10-17-2001, 10:48 AM
Thank you Hula Sista!
Brightness
10-17-2001, 02:46 PM
Hair, manicures, pedicures, wardrobe, makeup, lingerie, smelly-goods. . . .
I've always said you can be broke but look good being it :D
Originally posted by HulaSista+
djackso...you missed what chey said: HE CAN'T KEEP A STEADY JOB.....
that ain't cool at all...
so yes, men marry broke women all the time, BUT, we do keep a steady job...and there is a reason why we broke all the time. the reasons are inumerable...
Babygirl
10-17-2001, 08:10 PM
He will HAVE to get a steady job....he can start off by picking up a trade or going to the military;) . At least we will have 2 steady checks for at least four years(LOL). After he finishes trade school/basic training, then we can DISCUSS marriage. Not a minute before.
sistuhchey
10-17-2001, 10:36 PM
Originally posted by djackso+
Men marry broke ass women all the time. Maybe I need to take notes cause I need to stop looking at the ass & start looking at the cash.
Don't playa hate baby, it's all good...since it's a proven fact that in most black homes the SHEMALE is the bread winner or should I say the only winner...cause you know Black men are good at (Disappering Acts)......But to respond to your statement....
Yes, you should be looking at the $$$cash and not just the ass!!!
Then if you follow your mind and your heart.....The ass will surely cum!!!.....(oopss!!! no harm no foul)
;) ;)
Happy Belated....:beer :beer
OhSoPrecious
10-20-2001, 08:54 AM
I've taken care of broke ass niggas that I loved in the past. . . but, I be damned if I am going to marry one~!!!! :fu
Why you think I broke off two engagements~??? LOL :)
Mama always said. . . you can do bad by yourself~!! :hammer And, that is so true~!!!
Like I said in BE's thread. . . I'm still waiting on the one with the $$$~!! :D
sistuhchey
05-25-2005, 09:20 AM
any opinions changed??? :cool:
LoveStory
05-25-2005, 12:41 PM
any opinions changed??? :cool:
LOL I had to laff at this topic. I always say never marry for love alone, however, never discount someone because of their current status. If you love someone and this person is compatible, an encouragement to you, supports your dreams and your desires and doesnt stand in your way, why not give this person the chance to be your lifetime mate?
People could end up like this couple I know of. She married him cause he was wealthy and she would not have to work anymore. She had previously dumped a dude that had no job because she said she refused to support a grown man she didnt give birth to. One year after marriage, hubby gets sick and cant work. Benefits run out. No income coming in and guess where she has to work? A company where her ex is her boss.
The same person that makes you smile can make you cry :)
That Damn jl
05-25-2005, 01:18 PM
Hell no you don't marry him.
I can't take "But he loves me" to the store and get groceries.
"But I love him" don't pay no bills
But I love him don't get you nothing be another 2 mouths to feed (his and a baby's). Then ya ass is crying, talking about, "He ain't shit, he can't take care of his child," when in fact he wasn't handling business before ya'll even laid down.
dejavu
05-25-2005, 01:25 PM
Ok,,,,so say he ain't rich, and can't keep a steady job....but you love his dirty drawls...he makes you feel good all-over, you click, you laugh, you share, you cry together, and he pops the question???Will you marry me???? Do you??? knowing his financial status??? knowing you'll probably be the main bread winner.....Do you marry him???? Remeber now...you LOVE HIM!!!
:eek: :eek: :eek:
Marriage to me is a union where two should be equally yoked....I don't mind making more money then him (would prefer the other way around), but he has to have a "steady gig"with benefits...that is MANDATORY...
I don't care if he does the late shift Managing McDonalds....its a union job....and if he has been there long enough he will have a nice package.
Tastey
05-25-2005, 02:28 PM
Nope it has not changed one bit. As the old saying goes "I can do bad all by myself."
Since 01 I've watched my sister get drug to the ground financially and lose her home because she married a worthless man just like the one in the scenario cus she LOVED him.
She's divorcing him now, and she deeply regrets it because of what love cost her.
The thing is, it's not just about me loving him, but about him loving me too. And if he loves me, he won't want to marry me and drag me down in life. He'll want to be a part of uplifting me and himself.
HulaSista
05-25-2005, 04:46 PM
djackso...you missed what chey said: HE CAN'T KEEP A STEADY JOB.....
that ain't cool at all...
so yes, men marry broke women all the time, BUT, we do keep a steady job...and there is a reason why we broke all the time. the reasons are inumerable...
naw... my views have not changed. if anything... me and homey ain't getting pass date 2 romantically if i have this kind of info up front. but we can grow as friends, and he'll never get a chance to fall in love with me, let alone, ask me to marry him because i wouldn't even be around him that much nor that deep.
i pretty much have this same thought process for men who are steady trying to find quick ways to make money and NOT have to work. i get leary of these and stand back as an observer instead.
Brightness
05-28-2005, 06:19 PM
Nothing has changed for me. . .I'm not desperate enough for a broke man, yet.
S'More
07-07-2005, 01:22 PM
Naw, if he didn't make a lot yes, but not holding a job, naw. H*ll, even Adam had a job, he named the animals.
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