First Date Sex...?

[Admin]

Fam, does having sex on the first date, scream that you do not wanna have a lasting relationship with the person?
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[seductive_tee]

I wouldn't say so......could say u just horny.

[Brightness]

No, it can be just the opposite. Perhaps you are feeling that person totally in every way and you end up in an intimate moment.

[nubianx2]

No, it just means that two consenting adults gave into the feelin.

[HulaSista]

what i think it means and how i use sex on the first date and how i am percieved are three different things.

if he is feelin me on a deep level, i won't do it cause it would mean to much to him if i was to do it ...

9 times outta 10, the guy has attempted to treat me like shit as a result of sex on the first date inspite of how i percieve him.

for me, if i am not feelin homey on a deep level, yet, i am nosey and curious and wanna know how he rocks the boat, then, i do it. when i find out, i am no longer curious therefore i don't need to date ya or sex anymore (no matter how good it feels)...

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[ThickBodyHottie]

it really doesn't scream anything in particular...it just screams...

[OhSoPrecious]

Originally posted by nubianx2+
No, it just means that two consenting adults gave into the feelin.

I agree~!! :D After all, it is the New Millennium~!! :evil:

Btw, Admin. . . is that how the guys feel about first date sex. . towards the women~?? :confused: They're just hitting it and don't want a lasting relationship~??

You know how men and women are so different when it comes down to something like this~!! :rolleyes:

[Tastey]

For me personally...

If I want it to last....I will wait before having sex with him.


If I'm just attracted to him and don't see a future, I'll give in when I'm ready...maybe 1st or 2nd date.

Either way it could evolve into something...or it could STILL not be lasting.

[lightandlovely1]

I don't think so, I'm in agreement with T, I might just be horny. Generally speaking, before I ever go on a date with someone, we've had conversations. It depends on the tone of those conversations how I would feel about first date sex.

I went to dinner with a guy once, he was foin as hell. However, we didn't have a thing in common and I new we were not destined to have a lasting relationship. But I wanted him and he wanted me so....

[Toffee]

No it doesn't.. but about 99% of the time it does.

[Andre98]

...is that there is another aspect of dating that always happened to other people. The legend of the first date sex, I have heard tell of it, the stories are numerous and quite entertaining, but was just that, a story in my world.

I always thought that the man is supposed to try, it was our role to make it clear to the woman that we were interested enough in her to try to make subtle moves in that direction. But the game was supposed to be played, the game that says that she wasn't letting it go that easy, not on a first date. Once again, the man is expected to walk right into that wall, proceed until you are stopped. Give her something to turn down, being too polite aws a handicap, made you look chumpy, or chumpish... it's in the chump family. Go ahead, face your rejection, it's your gender's duty. But I'm defining first date as the first real time spent together at all. This is the first time you are getting to know a complete stranger. It's different if you have known the person for a while in the context of a wider group of friends and circumstances come around that finds you two out together as a pair. If that's the case, then the games should be bypassed, in fact, you two should know through the eyes you been giving each other that you had some chemistry brewing and bubbling and simmering and rising for some time, and it's now time to put the wheat and hops together with the barley malt and see what ferments. The yeast, I mean, the least you can do is hit a couple bases, get into some Zorro action with the tongues and see if the temperature and barometric pressure increase, or if a cold front approaches as you swap slobber and feel each other up as thoroughly as if you were going through customs at an airport in the Middle East. Okay, I'm all metaphored out.

I tried the first date drive to my apartment at 3am after a good time out to a real late dinner and drinks with the angel that was to become the Mrs. It was because i thought that was what I was supposed to do until she spoke up, at that key turn i made in the car that was the clear signal that we were not going back to campus. I thought all the time we spent together, months in fact, hanging out as a trio with the woman that was not so subtle in matchmaking us had set the tone long ago. The couple nights we three slept together....( I told y'all that story a while ago, right?) .... all that, I thought we were very familiar with each other. She had come back from summer break ahead of our friend and suggested we hang out, just the two of us. To tell ypu the truth, I was relieved, I was dead tired, and didnt want to have to find a reason to delay her coming in the door so I could run around and pick up the underwear and socks, spray the air freshener and shoo the roaches. Since we did solidify our relationship a few weeks later ( Okay, really, it was the next weekend), that was the final time that I had to face the myth that there was such a thing as first date sex. She told me that back then it was because she had the first date rule too, and thought that I would think less of her if I got to rock the little man in the boat the first time out to sea. She didn't say it just like that but you get the idea.

[D2daO2da]

Naaaaa,

Who been on a first date and scream that they want to get married and shit after it. Sex won't change that. Now if you go on a blind date and you know nothing about this person and you sex em up, who knows what that person is thinking. Hey as far as I am concerned talkin on the phone are little mini dates, not hi-bye but real 2 hour conversation for weeks, and then you go out. Shoot you can get to know someone before you go out on a date. you exchange numbers and you talk, and due to your busy schedule you get together and you both click and you get busy. That shouldn't change anything.

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[misha]

The times that i have participated in first date sex, it was because I really liked him and felt something that made me want him in that way. Some would say that in doing that, you have shot your chance to get to know him and all that, but I don't find that to be true.

Now, that I have gotten older, I do take more time to get to know someone before doing the deed. Because I want to be comfortable enough with the man that I can be myself, whether it is freaky or demure.